I’m sitting here smiling and giggling like a little school girl because sometimes, no most times, my life has NO explanation. So less than a month ago “cabana boy (CB)” said no more to whatever we had been doing, I was a mess as a result but managed to ignore him, his smell, his smile, and all the sexiness that he manages to exude by just standing there–yes it is that disgusting! HAHA!
Over the weekend I took some silly “what zodiac sign is your lover supposed to be quiz” and had to laugh when the result showed up because it said Pisces, yup, his sign! Work thankfully has been extremely busy which has kept me unable to engage in as much conversation or give him as much attention as I used to, clearly this has been to my benefit. I has helped me focus on me, my job, how I want to handle things at home with the husband and stepdaughter, what I need and want, and after training and finishing a marathon just taking time to breathe (when work allows!) Well, Monday was unlike other Mondays, yes I knew we had a super moon that night, but last week had been so bad that I didn’t think twice about it. He came in my office like most mornings, we chatted about the weekend, what we had done, the performance of the local football team, etc. and then like old times I got a smirk. I knew the clothes I wore that day fall on his list of things he likes on me, which yes it’s pretty much everything–someone else is in scrubs and let’s face it scrubs aren’t sexy–
Ok so 3rd day of trying to finish this post and with a drink by my side because it was a SUPER long day at work—so yes the smirk, some random flirtatious comments through the day on Monday and as he was getting ready to leave for the day he says “Yeah, you and I cant, it will likely happen again soon” I wondered whether I heard the right thing but didn’t ask for clarification and just kept working.
Tuesday came around and it was the same 15 yr old cat and mouse game we have been playing for the 18 months. I ended up wearing some capri pants, a sweater, and heels, professional enough but definitely not trying harder at all. Like most days we had out morning chat, talked about work, his daughter, stuff at my house, etc. A couple of times through the day he came in my office and we chatted some more, he told me once again how great I looked (must be the stress/lack of eating, then again I’ve always thought I’m just a really smart average looking woman, blame it on ex’s or not having my 1rst bf until I was 18). At some point that morning I did ask him why he had said what he said Monday afternoon and what it meant. As usual I got the answer I expected “Seeing you every day, trying to stay away from you, knowing that she (his wife) isn’t putting any effort, and that you are the whole package is driving me crazy” to which I had to LOL because back to my “why do we settle” post…here’s a man who’s clearly unhappy, who sees his future and happiness with someone else BUT settling. I walked with him to the hallway and elevator that day and before leaving he repeated what he said on Monday. Tease me replied “it’d be nice if it happened before Christmas” and walked away.
That must have left him thinking all-night on Tuesday because when he walked in on Wednesday morning, mind you I was dressed up in a skirt and 3″ heels after our civil, just friends morning chat, he asked “so I know you have tons of leave you need to get rid of, do you want to leave early today?”*JAW DROPPED TO THE FCKNG FLOOR* WHAT??? HE ACTUALLY BROKE in less than a month…WTF?!?!? Yes, the same man who told me less than a month ago that we had to stop everything, was all of sudden propositioning me to leave work early for a relaxing afternoon. I’ll spare you the details but I’ll share that a forgotten doctor’s appointment suddenly showed up on my calendar and it was a wonderful afternoon.
During the time we spent together, and me being me, I had to ask him why he had made the decision he made in October and what made him change his mind. His answer “We were back to leaving at the same time every afternoon, notes, lunch, and knowing that you are where and with whom I want to be but I’m choosing to stay where I am, I had to back off for a bit, I was getting wrapped up in us again.” I had nothing to say…speechless (doesn’t happen very often)
Life is one big conundrum and honestly all we can do is BE HAPPY IN THE MOMENT!!